Now what does this tell you about the person you’ve just met?

Generally speaking, for the first one:

• If the stranger is female and you’re female as well then it’s either she’s a very sexual person and want to share experiences OR she’s a lesbian.
• If the stranger is male then of course he’s interested in the woman he’s talking to or he’s gay if he’s talking to a guy (or maybe he just wants to brag about his escapades).

For the second one:

• It shows that they are interested in who you really are and not how sexually active you are.

I just don’t get it when people who just a few minutes ago were strangers suddenly ask you about your love/sex life when you aren’t even friends yet. The only thing i can think of is that they are more attuned to their bodies and material things than they are to their minds or spirit.

Call me old-fashioned or conservative but my sexual life is not for public consumption. I don’t share it around to people i just met who aren’t even my friends. I don’t even share that much to my family or friends because it’s my body, it’s my life and they don’t need to know what i do with my body. It’s not like they can learn anything from me that they haven’t even tried yet. I don’t even think i look like an expert in that department. Damn.

So i guess this is turning out to be a rant instead of an informative essay huh.

I mean if you want to know more about someone, it doesn’t need to start with their sexuality unless that person is also open to talking about such and broached the subject first. And don’t put the person on the spot in a group later on by asking him or her about it in front of everyone just because you couldn’t ask him/her personally.

Like srsly people? Hello? Not everyone is as liberated as you would think. Bear in mind that there are people who are stilll conservative and not comfortable talking about private stuff like their sex lives especially to people they just met a day or two or even a week ago. Just because you or they are now in a new place/environment doesn’t mean you have to know how sexual they are. What they do with their partners (or what their relationship status is) is initially none of your business.

Read my edited version here.

 1. They can’t be you.

2. They envy something/anything about you.

3. They can’t get/have what you get/have.

4. They think your life is better than theirs.

5. They can’t do what you do even if they try.

6. They can’t make you do what they want you to do.

7. They aren’t noticed as much as you do.

8. You have what they can never have.

9. You’re better than them.

It might be that you’re in a better place/situation in life than they are. Or you look awesome even if it seems you’re not doing much. Or you usually come out better than the rest even if you don’t want to.

10. You don’t notice them or pay attention to them without meaning to.

11. They feel undervalued even if they shouldn’t.

12. You hurt their feelings.

It doesn’t matter if you did it intentionally or not, they will still hate you anyway.

13. They don’t understand you.

It may be that they’re afraid of you or simply idolize you or maybe even love you a certain way but since it’s not reciprocated the way they want it, it turns into something else entirely. That’s why they ruin you, irritate you or do all the nasty stuff to you. It’s either that or they think you’re pathetic. Either way hate is still kind of a strong word.

People hating on you isn’t something to be proud of. You don’t boast how much someone hates you just because you’re who you are. But of course that might be a defense mechanism.

So what have we learned from this list then? Should you change yourself for them to please them? Nothing can really please people nowadays aside from making them feel good.

Hate is a strong enough word. It is unpleasant. It is uncomfortable. It makes you wanna kill someone.

Why would you wanna hate someone? Is it because you feel insignificant? Stupid? Unloved? Wronged?

What exactly is your problem that it made you hate someone? Is it because you got hurt? Why did it hurt?

You do know that nobody’s perfect right? But everyone strives to be perfect to the detriment of others, which shouldn’t be the case. Heck i don’t even care about my grammar, using a foreign language is enough as long as i get the point across and am understood.

So what can i say about this?

Well why don’t we all start doing what is right instead of hating people and putting them down just because we hate them. After all if it weren’t for them, you wouldn’t be where you are now. You may be bitter and still seek revenge but revenge is empty, as we have all witnessed in movies, TV shows, anime and the like. It only feels good at the beginning but then it makes you feel more rotten inside without you even noticing it.

Doing the right thing might be hard but it’s better. Use your hatred to make life better for you and everyone else without deliberately stepping on other people. You’re just going to make things worse than it is. Learn from your pain. Use your pain and the hate that results from it to learn about who you are and how people react to you and turn things into something positive. Hate and pain will consume you if you let it, so don’t let it keep you from having a happy and positive life.

Pray. Laugh. Love. Live.

Enjoy life to the fullest and make the world a much better place for everyone. =)

Found this fun quiz from a blog and thought I’d try it out… I was looking for something to put on the new batch of wallets I’ll be selling soon, and that’s how i found this.

Take the Seven Deadly Sins Quiz

I admit, sloth is really my vice and i’m not an envious person. =)

Which reminds me, I should get a move on… haha~ outta here!

How do you describe a place that reflects the ancient times in modern days? The arches, the detail, the beauty. How do you describe it to someone who does not know art history? The type of art and/or the era it is from? You can’t talk Rococo to someone who’s not aware of it. You can’t talk Byzantine or Victorian to someone who can’t relate. All you can talk about is how beautiful it is, how pleasing the place looks and that it is a wonderful place to celebrate your wedding, debut or anything else related to it.

To say it is exactly Rococo may be an overstatement as it does not seem overly detailed.  Perhaps it is safer to say the place is of Baroque inspired architecture.

Ah and here i am still waxing nostalgic at how beautiful the place is. It tears at my heart at how close to perfect Rococo/Baroque it seems, the closest I’ve ever seen. It makes me want to visit all the old places in the world I’ve read about in my art classes. It makes me want to know  when it was built, who designed it and what their inspiration for making the place is.

All i can do for now is write something about it, after taking pictures and videos of it while taking in the wonderful details of the place.

Thank you to my friend Kristine who asked me to come along with her yesterday to see the place. Thank you for letting me have the pleasure of capturing the beauty of the place. I would have loved to stay longer and take better pictures of it but of course that would be asking too much. Just seeing the place and finding out that such a place exists somewhere near the outskirts of the metro is good enough for me.

As early as now i wish you both all the best and all the happiness and joy the world has to offer.

I do think i might cry at your wedding even though it’s about 2 years early to say so.  :)

***pictures probably by next week.

I don’t remember exactly when or where i got this certain paper weight from – whether it was from an exchange gift or a birthday gift i received i do not remember anymore but it really helped remind me how true the words written on it are. It just goes to show that you will never really understand something  or find value in something unless you went through some hardships or problems along the way, one that you might have experienced for the first time or even several times.

One thing i didn’t get back then was how people would like figurines and those nicely shaped paper weights. I found them pointless: good as decoration but still pointless. I did buy figurines/paper weights as gifts for people who i believed would like such things but that was it. I’ve never bought one for myself even up to now. And whenever i got figurine gifts I’d hate it. Not really hate hate but i don’t like it. As i said, i find them pointless and a waste of space so i just keep them somewhere i don’t see or sometimes i give some away as gifts to those i know would appreciate such. But then i realized there are those paper weights or figurines that come along that would give you something good even after years have passed. And that happened when i was down and low and felt like i was nothing. Suddenly i found meaning in it; suddenly it didn’t seem so pointless anymore because it was the truth.

I took a picture of this rock paper weight back in May because i felt the need to share it with everyone, it was really meant for someone but then it’s for everyone as well. I made it  my primary picture in Facebook but it was only a few months after that i wrote a message underneath it. And this is what you’ll read:

~ Always remember that we are all loved by God (or whatever Higher Being you believe in) even if we are who we are. God is merciful and kind.

~ We do not need to force ourselves to deserve His love or mercy for He gives us plenty of chances to better ourselves everyday, that is how much He loves us. So please do not be depressed about who you’ve become, or why you’ve become someone you don’t even like sometimes. Strive to better yourself, find ways to improve yourself and do not be affected by those who bring you down when you know in your heart that you are doing things right in the eyes of God. 

~ It is never right to step on other people for the sake of either elevating yourself in the eyes of others or for satisfying your ego. You can improve and bring other people up as well without deliberately crushing other people. It is also not right to abuse those who can be abused just because they can be used and abused. 

~ I know i am far from being perfect but i always strive to do my best in helping those who need help. If in case i failed you at some point, please know that i did what i could at the time. This is all still a learning experience for me.

Life is indeed a learning process. Let us learn all there is to learn and spread love, joy and hope wherever we go!

Just today a new FB friend liked that picture and it prompted me to write something about it. It reminded me why i posted such a thing as my profile pic. It reminded me how people need to be reminded of it even if it’s cliche or something “we already know” because it might be unimportant today but it could be good, helpful and heartwarming in the future. We will never know what the future holds. Not everything is as we expect and plan it to be. If we did then living wouldn’t have any point at all.

So go out there and explore the world. Go out and have fun with the people you like to be with. If they’re busy let them know that you’ll just be there anytime or plan and set a schedule. Don’t have people you’d like to hang around with? Then go out, mingle, meet people and find them! Life is really too short to spend it all in misery. If you’re miserable, don’t drag everyone in it. Let them drag and help you up and out of it instead. Realize that you need help and find a way to be happy. God didn’t put you here to spend your days in misery. You are here to experience life, to help each other in reaching enlightenment and fulfillment. Everything really is a matter of choice. As long as what you do will benefit everyone and not cause more pain or misery nor step on/crush the weak and those who do the right things, then whatever that is, it is the right thing.

If you spend your days doing nothing but delaying the things you should be doing then you are doing yourself a disservice. If you think doing something would be wrong then do the right thing. I know it is hard but if you want to be able to sleep at night and not become numb to everything then do the right thing. If you’ve made the wrong decisions then don’t beat yourself up over it in an extended period of time. Contemplate what happened to you, reflect on it then stand up, dust yourself off and move forward. Do not let it bring you down but use it to improve yourself and everyone else if you can. It wasn’t a useless experience if it made you and other people a better person. Now you know better. It’s that simple.

Always remember, whatever you do, God is there for you.  You may not believe in Him (or It or whatever higher being you believe in) but He exists. He is everything and nothing. No words can actually describe Him, words are merely there to barely express what He is. The God you believe in may possibly be the same God someone else believes in, even if he/she is from a different religion. He is as i said: everything and nothing, the alpha and the omega. And truly He is a merciful God so trust in Him and do your best; everything will just fall into the right places. As long as you believe it, and if it is best for all, it will happen.

Found out what the fuss in Facebook about James Soriano and Bekimon language was all about because of a friend’s FB link (Carla Montemayor’s article).  Indeed we are still Filipinos but we are too immersed in American culture that some tend to think we’re better off being like them.  It’s not like this thinking is new but i guess it’s getting worse? Don’t you think we are now losing our culture and are being turned into so-called Brown Americans (like American imitations?) without even realizing it? How? Why through everyday media of course. From the songs, TV shows, movies, books to newspapers and everything else, which are mostly from America, we learn about the American culture. We probably know more about their culture than our own.

Even if we do know much about our culture if we are not properly educated, there will always be people who won’t really know or are aware of some vernacular words’ proper usage even if it is/was taught in high school or college. Many get confused over kung/kong, ng/nang, raw/daw and all that (which really annoys me to no end), and when someone makes a mistake in Filipino grammar, no one really calls them out and corrects them. When you do, it’s not like they’d care right? They’ll either shrug it off and ignore you or think you’re being such a know-it-all.

What makes me sad is the fact that not everyone knows or even realizes we are under neocolonialism. I don’t know if anyone would have the guts to do anything about it and face the ire of the entire country, but hey maybe that’s the Philippines for you.

Aside from neocolonialism, we are divided into the educated and the non-educated (or shall we add the “maledukado”?), the rich and the poor, the Catholics and the Muslims. Each have their own set of subculture and mode of thinking and each brings their own uniqueness to the country. I guess this is really what makes us who we are now.

So, why use English? Because it is what professionals use. They make it so like when you use Filipino in business communication it’s like unprofessional because we’re not used to it at all, and no one would probably understand you that well. The fact that our major newspapers are in English should make you wonder if you’re in the Philippines or not. They make it appear like tabloids are for the masses because it is in Filipino.

But what of Libre, the MRT freebie tabloid? Well it is in Tagalog but it’s really good, it’s very Filipino and not done in bad taste at all. Why can’t we make major newspapers like that? Because we are so used to English that we’d probably be weirded out by the sudden change. Just reading Google (and everything else related to it) in Tagalog makes our heads spin because we are not used to it (or maybe because sometimes it’s not really translated that well).

And let me just add to the fact something that’s beginning to crop up in our consciousness: there are people (surprisingly even those aged 35+) who think calling other people older than them as Kuya or Ate means they are trying to make the person related to them or something when they just don’t want to “respected” because of their age. C’mon. We all know that when you call someone Ate or Kuya it is a form of respect for your age, you are being polite, much like the Japanese have “-san” or something, much like po and opo/ho and oho. If you don’t like to be called Ate or Kuya because it makes you feel old then just say so, don’t ridicule the person who’s being polite in calling you ate or kuya by asking them if you’re related. Would you rather be called ale or mama? Tsk.

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I don’t think my list would be long though as i’ve yet to see any “new” anime that’d  interest me.

So here’s a list of anime i’ve seen so far, including the series’ OVA . Yellow means i haven’t finished the entire series yet, Pink means it’s my favorite or i like it a lot, italicized anime title means i didn’t like it but i’ve seen it. =) If it’s White and clickable it means a link to my review can be read there.

• Astro Boy (1980 tv series)
  
• Blood+
• Code Geass
• Ranma 1/2
• Dragonball Z (and it’s succeeding seasons)
• Getbackers
• Hunter x Hunter
• Naruto (Naruto Shippuuden)
• Princess Tutu
• Death Note
• Kyou Kara Mao (God Save Our King)
• Fate/Stay Nite
• Honey and Clover
• Magic Knight Rayearth
• Full Metal Alchemist
• Gatekeepers
• Rurouni Kenshin (Samurai X)
• YuYu Hakusho (Ghost Fighter)
• Wolf’s Rain
• Neon Genesis Evangelion
• The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya
• Sailor Moon
• Fushigi Yugi
  
• Tsubasa Chronicles (Chronicles of the Wings)
• Detroit Metal City
• Trigun

 
Studio Ghibli / other anime movies:

• Spirited Away
• Grave of the Fireflies

Basta masarap. Medyo maalat nga lang yung Italian red sauce na naluto ko pero ayos pa rin! Mmmmm. Bigat sa tiyan. Sarap! Kahit walang cheese grater ayos lang, ano’ng gamit ng tinidor di ba? Wehehehe~

Well matagal na rin akong hindi nagluto ng spaghetti, (as in with real meat, meaning hindi de lata kase may ref, hahaha!) so i decided to buy the ingredients last Sunday. Ayun. Nakita ko ang wholemeal (wheat) pasta. Kakaiba. So naisip ko why not try it. Ano ba pinagkaiba di ba? Parang red/brown rice vs white rice lang siguro so in it went sa aking grocery basket.

(left) wholemeal pasta, (right) ordinary pasta. Image from stockfood.com

And yeah it’s fibery… and slightly gritty? Basta ganun. If you like nice smooth pasta it will be quite an experience for you. Pero ako, sorry na-enjoy ko. Hahaha. Feeling ko mas nabusog ako. More texture while eating. XD Although mejo nasobrahan yata sa alat yung red sauce ko, i forgot yun nga purpose ng cheese di ba in case super asim, still… kung hindi lang matagal i-digest eh kumain pa ulit ako! Hahaha~

I missed my spaghetti, XD, pero mas miss ko yung original version, yung luto ni Inay. hehe.

What I think is that ancient Earthlings were able to leave our planet during the first time Earth was kind of “destroyed”. Much like the time that seems to be upon us, Dec 2012 may be the beginning of it i do not know for certain. I’d like to think they keep coming back to Earth whenever it’s time for Earth to rebuild or cleanse itself because it was their first home. It is also possible that these ancient people colonized the Earth and did originally come from another planet. They come back to take off and save people from the planet and then return once the Earth has once again renewed itself. Now there may also be a possibility that somehow people might survive such changes on Earth. And when these same aliens come back to “replenish” the Earth with people again, those few who survived will be helped by these new people.

There are many possibilities of course. How can we know which one is the truth when even our “truths” and beliefs are relative? For we know nothing but we also know everything. I believe we know the truth but are just mostly blind to it.

I do not discount the possibility of those we call angels, demons & gods being alien beings. The word alien does mean from somewhere other than the native of a certain place. So anything coming outside of Earth (extraterrestrial) or the 3rd dimension can be correctly called alien.

What i’d like to know and am still curious about are the spirit/invisible/supernatural beings here on Earth. The ones which normal people are not able to sense. What is their possible relation to those physically coming from outside our world? Or is there even a connection? Or are we the ones who are originally alien to this planet?

Wow i need to read more on mythology and stuff. Hahaha~ I’ve always liked to read them strange things. Dealing with it scientifically i can perhaps handle but if i myself experience it i believe there will be no turning back. Ever.

Now the question for most of us once we get to that point are these: Should we take that risk? Are we even ready? Will we be able to accept it once we deem ourselves ready? Are we totally prepared? Because if we are not, and we are exposed to it, the consequences can be grave. And as i said before, there is no turning back once you’ve stepped out over “the line”. (So maybe moderation is truly the key eh?)

I have been able to read  and watch about such stuff since i was a kid. My brothers had them such books. I don’t even know where they got them. As a kid i also remember asking my mom to buy some supernatural literature i really wanted to have when we probably had money to spare. Back then, Marvel and DC comics, D&D books, Television, local fantasy comics and such were all around me. My dreams back then were all fantastic and full of adventure. I would go about and investigate things like a detective/adventurer, and together with my family, relatives or friends would solve the mysteries of my dreamworld – magical, mystical and flat out amazing. Who wouldn’t when some shows on TV had some of those creepy heads in Easter island? I think i was three or so when i dreamed of those same creepy heads rising up from the earth, their bodies forming out of the ground, the earth all rumbling and shaking as one of them then towered over us and walked and tried to step on us (or maybe kill us?) while we were all running in fear of that big dark giant. (In fairness isa lang yata yung lumabas mula sa lupa na higanteng alien/bato ha.) But that was after watching just one show which involved an image, maybe of those heads in Easter Island? I dunno, that was way back when i was a leeeeeetel keeed. I think from then on i decided never to watch any horror or scary shows because it caused me to dream of scary things. I can watch horror or really scary shows but i don’t like it at all so i don’t do it, not if i can help it.

Anyway so I also read Nancy Drew and Hardy Boys back then. Awesome stuff. I always want to know certain stuff, anything i’m interested in i’d go learn about it. I’ve always, always been a curious person. It’s just that reality comes along and erases all those fantasies and dreams you had as a kid. Maybe I’m half-jaded? Who knows? Maybe i can find my way back there if i don’t let myself get dragged back down by all the things we humans let ourselves be dragged down with all the time.

Lucky are those who are able to turn their dreams as a kid into reality. I commend them. Dare i say i envy them? Ah well, that is a topic for another day.